I know most of you are terribly confused of our Indian rituals and rites when it comes to wedding preparation. Sadly some just don't understand about it or even take initiative to actually get the facts into their head. Well allow me to provide information on the differences that is involved before getting married but do remember that this is not a targeted post so please don't feel offended if at any point I mentioned f*** you, or you f**** don't understand, stu***, this and that because that's not meant for you.
Before someone actually walks into the married zone there are few rituals involved and I am talking about Indian wedding.
First one is called ponne pakeran which means the whole bridegroom family will go to the bride’s house to see and verify that this is the girl that the guy going to get married to and then they will discuss when they can come and do the nitchayam. Usually this is meant for arranged marriage because the groom’s family will get to know that there is a single girl who is waiting to get married and looking for mappilai, so this applies to them. They will go to the girls house to see the girl and let the parents of the girl know if they want to go on with this providing everyone likes the girl. This does not apply for love marriage but of course sometimes our Indians fellas are extremely smart they still want to follow the step of ponne pakeran thingy even though they have met the girl like 20 times.
Secondly and importantly is the second ritual. Its called nitchayam. KEEP THIS IN YOUR MIND. NITCHAYAM IS NOT THE SAME AS ENGAGEMENT!!! Nitchayam is actually to confirm to the bride’s family that they are going to get their son married to this girl and this is the day where they will decide on which date they want to held the marriage and how much dowry if any to be given and who is going to do what, the budgeting etc. it's a confirmation that the girl and the guy will get married. No exchange of rings only words. So got it? If anyone says that engagement and nitchayam is the same, they deserve a bitch slap from me.
The third ritual would be the engagement. Yes this is when they will exchange rings and can be considered as half married. So to all those players, this is the stage where you guys should tie up your dick and stop gallivanting around. At the engagement is when the gold with be exchanged, the thali will be given ( this one im not sure ) and many other things will be discussed. There are some situations where arguments and fights will happen during engagement, due to some old bus3rds who thinks they controls the situation and start talking cock. Stirred situation, some weddings even have stopped at the engagement stage. Anyway to cut the crap, you know what engagement is right, exchanging rings and getting married, partially.
Finally is the wedding. Do I have to explain this further?